Post by nautibride on Apr 23, 2016 16:03:53 GMT
I never thought I would be pissed at my FMIL. Backstory: FMIL had a rocky childhood with abusive parents that always made her the bad guy. As a result her and her two sisters are always arguing and usually it is 2 against 1. It has been this way since I met them. Last year one of her sisters was incredibly rude to FMIL over selling her house and they didn't talk for a while. We've always asked to be kept out of the drama because it is stupid. That sister moved to texas and we figured things would get better since they wouldn't see each other as much.
Fast forward to the fall of last year when their dad passed. Apparently the drama and anger at each other didn't pass and the third sister is now of the drama causing ones shit list. So now it is 2 sisters against the crazy one from texas.
We figured it was all stupid drama. This crazy sister is also one to cause a scene so FH and I felt it would be more drama to not invite her to the wedding that for 3 adult women to behave. We also felt this way because her son is our officiant and FH's closest cousin.
We are planning on addressing invites this weekend and FH told his mom the plan yesterday. She sounded upset but said as long as she doesn't have to sit with her sister it would be okay. Fast forward an hour or so and FH gets a call from one of his sisters basically telling him horrible things about this aunt and how their mom was upset. She even cried.
FH and I then talked about it and decided we won't invite her. He told his sister via text and she mentions how she will tell everybody else in the family we changed our mind. WTF? It's none of her business. We've pieced together that FMIL called both her daughters to complain about our choice as well as her sister and mom. One daughter did call and the other one planned to. This woman cannot do her dirty work. I am so pissed about the whole thing because either is stupid and could have been fixed if she had just been honest to FH.
FH called her to talk about it and call her out for not talking to use directly and being honest and she got defensive about the whole thing. She says she doesn't want to involve FH in the drama because he doesn't want to be involved but seriously, if this is such a big issue you don't have to share every detail, just tell us it is really a problem if her sister is invited. I really get frustrated when people just can't be honest.
Oh, and on top of that she is guilting FH into inviting his godparents that he never talks to. So yeah...we are switching out his crazy aunt for his God parents. And I've got to try to get their address from her today so we can do our invites. I'm sure we will be having a nice chat about all the drama. This woman is so dramatic it is frustrating. Also, she likes to pull the "the women my sons are with control them and that's why they don't call me all the time" card. So yeah, I'm pretty sure she thinks it's all my idea and I am controlling her son. Never-ending we actually discussed this for a long time and ultimately it was FH's decision because it is his family.
Fast forward to the fall of last year when their dad passed. Apparently the drama and anger at each other didn't pass and the third sister is now of the drama causing ones shit list. So now it is 2 sisters against the crazy one from texas.
We figured it was all stupid drama. This crazy sister is also one to cause a scene so FH and I felt it would be more drama to not invite her to the wedding that for 3 adult women to behave. We also felt this way because her son is our officiant and FH's closest cousin.
We are planning on addressing invites this weekend and FH told his mom the plan yesterday. She sounded upset but said as long as she doesn't have to sit with her sister it would be okay. Fast forward an hour or so and FH gets a call from one of his sisters basically telling him horrible things about this aunt and how their mom was upset. She even cried.
FH and I then talked about it and decided we won't invite her. He told his sister via text and she mentions how she will tell everybody else in the family we changed our mind. WTF? It's none of her business. We've pieced together that FMIL called both her daughters to complain about our choice as well as her sister and mom. One daughter did call and the other one planned to. This woman cannot do her dirty work. I am so pissed about the whole thing because either is stupid and could have been fixed if she had just been honest to FH.
FH called her to talk about it and call her out for not talking to use directly and being honest and she got defensive about the whole thing. She says she doesn't want to involve FH in the drama because he doesn't want to be involved but seriously, if this is such a big issue you don't have to share every detail, just tell us it is really a problem if her sister is invited. I really get frustrated when people just can't be honest.
Oh, and on top of that she is guilting FH into inviting his godparents that he never talks to. So yeah...we are switching out his crazy aunt for his God parents. And I've got to try to get their address from her today so we can do our invites. I'm sure we will be having a nice chat about all the drama. This woman is so dramatic it is frustrating. Also, she likes to pull the "the women my sons are with control them and that's why they don't call me all the time" card. So yeah, I'm pretty sure she thinks it's all my idea and I am controlling her son. Never-ending we actually discussed this for a long time and ultimately it was FH's decision because it is his family.