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Post by winosaurusrex on Mar 29, 2016 18:33:24 GMT
Your strength gave me the courage to admit for the first time in 12 years that I WAS sexually assaulted. That is was a real thing and it happened not just to me, but to every man woman and child who has said no and been ignored. Thank you.
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Post by mrjonesandme on Mar 29, 2016 18:41:46 GMT
spazzytazi Donated as you asked, and sent you a present too. You inspired me. I have never, since it happened 15 years ago, spoke about what happened to me. Last night I broke down and told FH. He cried too...he was amazingly supportive. He isn't mad I never told him, he understand a lot about why I am the way I am now. I wanted to thank you for giving me courage. I feel like I need to share now too... When I was 16 I was dating a guy that pressured me constantly to have sex with him. I wasn't ready and always said not yet. Well one day, I guess I said no one too many time and as I tried to walk away from him he grabbed the back of my head and smashed it into the entertainment center. I fell down and passed out. I woke up, I guess two or three hours later in his bed with no clothes on and bruises all over my body. I think I had broken ribs, though I never went to the doctor. I don't know what happened so I had no leg to stand on legally...I never told anyone until last night. Thank you for giving me courage. You are my hero. <3
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Post by Tiffany on Mar 29, 2016 18:44:42 GMT
mrjonesandme Thank you for sharing your story. *HUGS* I'm glad that your FH was there for you last night and was so supportive
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Post by futuremrschando on Mar 29, 2016 18:47:25 GMT
Will donate tonight. Thank you for being so open about this. I mentioned in a thread that was formed after the HL that reactions like some peoples yesterday is why I don't share my story, but I trust you guys and I think I'm ready to share.
When I was 15, I dated a kid I had known since middle school. He was diagnosed bipolar but didn't sticks with his meds regularly. He wanted to have sex, but I said I wasn't ready. That I wanted to be sure and I wasn't. One day he had enough and grabbed me, pushed me onto the couch, held me down and forced himself on me. For the LONGEST time, I convinced myself it was my fault, that maybe I hadn't been strong enough in my convictions, that I insinuated it would be ok somehow. But it wasn't ok, and I understand that now. I have a 3 year old daughter and I pray to God she never has to know that pain or interact with people who would make her feel like it was her fault if it did happen to her.
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Post by spazzytazi on Mar 29, 2016 18:48:12 GMT
Wow. I'm crying. I love you guys so much, and even if it was only a little push I'm so so so happy tha I was able to spread the confidence to talk about what happened to you. Yesterday on weddingwire was the first time I ever admitted what happened to me. I was sexual assaulted when I was a young child, and without giving out the name of who did it, I have been able to talk about that with my fiancé and a couple of my Ex's. But the being drugged story. I only ever told the person who drove me to go buy the Plan B. I blamed myself for a really long time. And even as I was posting it I felt the need to make sure to say my drink was nonalcoholic (and it truly was) because I was so scared someone would blame me if it was an alcoholic drink. I don't know if I'm ready to break out all the details, or name who did it.. but it felt good to say it out loud (well, in type)
I'm so sorry for everything you all have been through. It's never too late to talk about it.
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Post by puppybagel on Mar 29, 2016 18:48:44 GMT
Rage donated (that's a thing, right?) to PP and RAINN. Thank you Spazzy and others for sharing. Sorry for all the bullshit that followed.
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Post by mrsfaith on Mar 29, 2016 19:04:18 GMT
You ladies are all so strong. While it hasn't happened to me personally, there are several women that I'm very close to who have been assaulted, and it just infuriates me when I see how much they hurt. Fuck anyone who does that to someone else.
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Post by uberdami on Mar 29, 2016 19:07:11 GMT
spazzy you rock....plain and fucking simple. don't ever let any incident destroy your inner strength and beauty. you are amazing for sharing your story and fuck those people who would cloud all your good intentions and words with their bullshit.
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Post by arielle on Mar 29, 2016 19:24:46 GMT
Rage donated (that's a thing, right?) to PP and RAINN. Thank you Spazzy and others for sharing. Sorry for all the bullshit that followed. As someone who works in nonprofit as a fundraiser, rage donating is definitely a thing, and fundraisers love when people get so fired up about an important cause that they want to make a donation!
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Post by jenny on Mar 29, 2016 20:47:47 GMT
You seriously have my respect girl! My daughter is going through this and it is so horrifying...again I'm sorry you had this experience and am so proud of you!
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Post by JoRocka on Mar 29, 2016 21:09:48 GMT
My heart breaks for you all its so sad that collectively we as a group must suffer because someone thinks they have a right to take our inner most personal being away from us.
It's fucked up. No matter how it happens. If you didn't say yes it's fucked up and wrong. I'm sad for the women in our society and others who have to deal with this regularly. And I count the US as one of the more 'civilized' locations. Truly heart breaking. Thank ladies for containing to be awesome and genuine and wonderful in the face of adversity. It's a testament to your character that you are who you are and still standing proud and tall today. Keep kicking ass.
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Post by mrsf2b on Mar 29, 2016 21:13:58 GMT
Spazzy - we've never actually interacted (that I can recall) but I just wanted to say that you are brave as hell. I'm really sorry that WW treated you the way it did; that's absolutely not okay. You have my deep admiration and respect.
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Post by katrinao on Mar 29, 2016 21:18:34 GMT
Hugs and healing sent your way. It takes bravery to speak of awful hurtful things and I admire that quality so much. ❤
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Post by yasminadlv on Mar 30, 2016 14:10:29 GMT
My god, ladies.
I'm reading these stories, and just marveling at how brave you all are to share.
I have a similar experience in my past, where I had changed my mind, but was forced anyway...its a terrible thing to go through.
Sending you all love and light.
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Post by marygwendolyn on Mar 30, 2016 14:17:47 GMT
It's so great to have access to a community where you can all relate (or at least legitimately sympathize) with something that I've gone through. twice. It's not even something I've been able to share with my family, but FH and a few close friends know. It's amazing to know that if I needed to share my story in more detail here, I'd be able to do so and be greeted with an outpouring of love and support.
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