MrsP
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Post by MrsP on Mar 30, 2016 17:36:41 GMT
mrsp the promoter is supposed to get a small cut, but i just sent them an email expressing the issues and letting them know that if we can't move forward as is expected that we'll have to renegotiate the payment deal. luckily, we're getting a new promoter next month, i just cant deal with this one anymore. this is not the first issue we've encountered with him Good. You shouldn't be paying for work you are having to do yourself. Our league was paying for some promotion but they just weren't doing it so we decided to handle it ourselves. Much better for now.
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uberdami
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Post by uberdami on Mar 30, 2016 17:38:09 GMT
im sorry mrsp tell him how you feel, be stern about it. sounds like he does have plenty of down time to be playing and its not like you're limiting it to one day a week. just let him know it is making you feel lonely. perhaps throw it out there that you guys should plan a date night....either going out, staying in, doing things together etc on a certain day every week. maybe that will get him into the swing of spending more time together
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uberdami
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Post by uberdami on Mar 30, 2016 17:39:15 GMT
ya we used to do all the promo by ourselves but it just got to be way too much to handle. we're pushing out 3-4 shows a week, plus my solo work, plus my convention tours with another group. its just too much. my hubby has stepped in as my manager which is great and our new promoter who starts next month is already amazing
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Post by rjmargo on Mar 30, 2016 17:39:16 GMT
He uses a headset so he can talk to his friends he's playing with. I can't spend time in the living room because of other issues so it usually means that I'm in the bedroom alone if I'm not out of the house. We used to talk to each other, watch shows or movies together or even just be in the same room reading or something but not anymore. I'm so frustrated that I'm literally like WTF every night. Did something change recently? It sounds like this is a new behavior and that you and your FH need to sit down and figure out why video games have now taken over his life. You need to find out if it is related to your relationship. Or is it to blow off steam from work? Or did he get a new game and is just addicted?
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uberdami
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Post by uberdami on Mar 30, 2016 17:43:25 GMT
years ago i would play gears of war the entire day, all day until i had work. turns out it wasnt just because i loved the game, it was because i was severely depressed and i wasnt talking to anyone about it. it was an escape, it brought me joy in my day that was otherwise miserable. perhaps your husband has something inside that hes bottling up and the game is an escape
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Post by ives1013 on Mar 30, 2016 17:45:41 GMT
MrsP I agree with PPs that it seems like something has changed. Perhaps you can discuss over dinner that you feel like the gaming is cutting into your time together. Perhaps schedule date nights if you can. I will admit there are times when I get pissed at BF for being on the Xbox as much as he is but at the same time I'm on my laptop for hours on end with my friend. Try to set aside a time to have a conversation about it and tell him how you feel. If he gets defensive, tell him that you will not talk to him about this until he can do so in a calm manner.
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tayliarae
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Post by tayliarae on Mar 30, 2016 17:48:32 GMT
Thanks guys. Now I'm stuck on Trulia looking at homes.
Good luck to everyone needing it for all the things!
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MrsP
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Post by MrsP on Mar 30, 2016 17:53:14 GMT
We have talked about it before and things were better for a few days then gradually he started spending more time playing. We sent on vacation last month and it was great to have him back. I told him that and things were good again for a few days when we got back but then he again gradually increased his time. I don't think he's depressed, he is still the same person and he still runs and does other things sometimes. He got the PS4 in late November and we have seriously been dealing with this since then. He plays Destiny. He plays with a good friend of mine sometimes and I have told my friend that I'll buy him a beer for killing my DH off, lol. It's an addiction for sure...
All this^^^- the reason for my PS4 kill list.
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Post by Nicole J on Mar 30, 2016 17:54:08 GMT
MrsP- I read your posts. I think you guys need to first have a conversation about if this behavior is related to your relationship or something going on in his life. If he insists it's not, then I think you should insist on setting a schedule. My WTF: lm actually having a pretty good week. Today I can't get over this though:
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Post by puppybagel on Mar 30, 2016 17:56:13 GMT
My WTF is that one of the senior people I work for pulled me off all of my other work so I could focus solely on one case. But it takes him a week+ to get me comments on my work, so I have very little to do while waiting for his feedback and no one else will give me work because they know he's claimed me for this project. So dumb. Also super nerve-wracking given that I bill my time and so have to account for it carefully. I have a review coming up and it's going to look great when I have a random week of zero hours (though still have to sit in the office and wait for comments).
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MrsP
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Post by MrsP on Mar 30, 2016 17:56:17 GMT
nicole J- That is so funny! i love the pics of cats stuck in things too and they just sit there like it's all ok..
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uberdami
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Post by uberdami on Mar 30, 2016 17:57:20 GMT
sometimes you just got to put your foot down, and tell your man hey we need to compromise. he needs his down time and game time but he also needs to nurture your relationship
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Post by Nicole J on Mar 30, 2016 17:58:40 GMT
nicole J- That is so funny! i love the pics of cats stuck in things too and they just sit there like it's all ok.. Haha. But cats never look nearly as happy as this dog. Lol.
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Post by mrsfaith on Mar 30, 2016 17:59:20 GMT
tayliarae I've been on Zillow all day, I feel your pain! nicole J - That dog is hilarious.
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Post by puppybagel on Mar 30, 2016 18:02:41 GMT
I don't know why every time I see a cute dog I have to squeal "puppy!" at my screen like a crazy person.
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